Love Got To Do With It?
Corinthians 13 gives us a good description of love. Both husbands and wives
should read this chapter replacing love with their own names. Love is giving and
communicating and holding to a standard of love and righteousness, regardless of
how or when your love is received.
2:4,6 Romans 5:17 Revelations 20:6
Christ in His word gave Himself so that we the Church could rule and reign with
Him. Scripture tells us that a glorious perfect church, or a family full of
holiness, come to pass when we walk in obedience to Godís word as a living
example. We are to make provision for our mate to be spiritually fed and
surrounded with the Word of God.
is not a feeling. Love is an action that produces feelings.
16:3 (Amplified Version) tells us that when we roll our works over onto the
Lord He will cause even our thoughts to become agreeable to His will.
5:28,30 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loves
his wife loves himself for no man yet ever hated his own flesh but nourishes and
cherishes it even as the Lord the Church. For we are members of His body, of His
flesh and of His bones.
are to treat their wives as they themselves would like to be treated. If you
would like not to be treated in a certain way, your wife will not like that
either. Be sure to include and honor your wife or your husband in all
situations. Some men feel they are in charge, and give their wives the dirty
jobs and talk down to them to show their authority, and then demand their wives
to love and respect them. This is not scriptural or loving. Respect can only be
earned and not demanded.
requires a relationship. A good relationship is built on love and mutual
respect. To receive respect we must be prepared to give respect. We always reap
the same kind of crop that we sow.
this cause a man shall leave his father and mother and shall be joined unto his
wife and they two shall be one flesh. This is a great mystery I speak concerning
Christ and the Church nevertheless, let every one of you in particular so love
his wife even as himself and the wife sees that she reverences her husband.
Husbands and wives are to join together and be one. This does not mean that they will do every thing exactly the same. For example, your hand is a part of your body, but it does not do the same job that your head or your foot does. But your head and your hand and your feet are all a necessary part of your body. They are all one. We are to leave our parents ideas of how a marriage should work, and work out our own relationship.
The man or woman you marry will not be a copy of your mother or your father, and will have different needs. God wants us to respond to one another instead of traditions that worked for your parents or your friends. We should never allow anyone, even our parents, to criticize or tear down our mates. Wives are to reverence their husbands. Respecting and loving your husband will help him to grow. A wife that wishes to be honored, respected and cherished must be prepared to give honor, respect and love to her husband.
wife that truly honors her husband will never talk down about him to other men
or to other women. She will be loyal to build him up and not tear him down. A
wife who respects her husband will not allow the children to criticize him
either. A husband and wife who respect one another will find it easy to be
polite to one another, and they will truly be able to be one anotherís best
yourself what kind of a friend am I to my partner, then take a pen or pencil and
write down ten good things about your husband or wife. Thank God for these
qualities in your mate two times a day for 30 days. See if you can add to the
list of qualities that you have written down.
think of three attitudes you would like to change in your partner. Write them
down. Now for the next 30 days work at changing these attitudes in yourself
without saying a word to your partner about what you are doing.
Bible tells us to overcome evil with good. Here are some scripture references
that will help you:
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